When you are so far apart.... long distance relationship

In this age of internet, chat room sometimes you find someone you love there, but the problems come when you realize how far distance betwen you and your love one. It will be a hard relationship, because when you need your soulmate beside, he is not there. Human beings crave physical affection. People miss the other person's smile, eye contact, scent, touch, kiss, touch, and most aspects of physical intimacy. No matter how much a couple tries, physical interaction cannot be replaced by a phone call, letter or cyber anything

It will be harder when not only distance but different timezone too. You cant match the exact time to communicate. You must arrange time for rest, work and when you can have intimate times to talk.

But since love sometimes you cant control, so just try many ways to make it work.

* communicate in some way everyday
Since you wont be seeing each other, it's important to establish and maintain an emotional connection. Not always long or in-dept relationship, but just teel him/her your little problem and ask for advice. Send message via messenger or email is good but be careful sometimes written language can increase possibility of misunderstanding. U can use webcam to interact with your mate, with that you can see your mate expression and smile. It can reduce your burden from missing him or her to much.Send her/him short good night, good morning message or little love notes just to express how you care about him/her

*Make an agreement with your mate how many times you will contact him/her for a week, so one of you not feel abandoned by other. If you can meet your promise just send a massage to explain why. Be prepared to be flexible and less demanding.

*NEVER argue over e-mail and try not to argue over the phone either. If it happen try to solve it carefully.

* Avoid jealousy and be trusting One of the easiest ways to destroy a perfectly healthy relationship is to poison it with jealousy and drama. When you start a long distance relationship you must be realistic of the difficulties ahead. You should approach the trust issue in a long distance relationship the same way as you would in a normal relationship. If there is no indication or evidence of cheating, it is most likely not happening. Don't fall in the trap to interrogate your partner every time he/she decides to go out for a drink with people you haven't met or he/she didn't get back to you right away when you called and left a message

*Know when to say good-bye. While this is tough in any relationship, this can be especially hard over long distances. When communication becomes one-sided or sparse for too long and for no apparent reason, when arguments (yes, you'll have them) become too frequent, when the whole thing just seems like more trouble than it's worth, it's time to re-evaluate the relationship.
You have to remember that for a healthy relationship, no matter how far or close, you must be willing to let go.

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Men- Know what women want

What do women want? This question troubles many men. If they like a woman, how to attract her and how to keep that love alive for long.
Men believe women primarily want them for security reasons, and women believe men primarily want them for sex or to be caregivers. This explains why both men and women often feel used in relationship. Below are a few fact that women want from men, that can prove how care and meaningful the relationship that they have.

# women want to treat delicately
Treat them gently and be there whenever she needs any help. Show her that she is invaluable for you in all the possible ways. Let her feel good about herself whenever she is with you.

# women want to be heard.
They simply want to be listened to and responded to in a reasonable manner. They do not want to be shut down, ignored or placated.


# Women want men who can communicate and stay in the conversation.
Women always want to communicate about feelings, needs, wants, hopes, dreams, problems, solutions, and all other topics that make a relationship and life work. Women want men can respond when they talk, not just heard and go away without any respond

# Women want men who are introspective and aware.
Women want men to know their own minds and hearts. They want men who know what makes them happy or sad. They want men who are aware of what they want and understand what motivates their action or inaction.

# Women want men who are committed to the relationship – exclusively and for the long haul.
Women want men who will stay in the relationship when the going gets tough, and will find any ways to help the relationship work

# Women want a man who cares deeply about her as well as his needs.
They want a man who can recognize and acknowledge what she wants and address it, a man who can say no or yes, depending on which one is more true to his heart.

# Women want fun, playful, creative, passionate men.
They want a man of creative, intellectual, playful substance. They want a man who knows how to play, who is not afraid to make a fool of himself, who lives his passions.

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Give a time to heal your broken heart

This song sounds perfect for broken heart
Breakdown-Mariah Carrey.

Break break down,Steady breakin me on down 3x

You called yesterday to basically say That you care for me,
But that you're just not in love Immediately I pretended
To be feeling similarly And led you to believe it was okay
To just walk away from the one thing That's unyielding and sacred to me

Chorus:

Well I guess I'm trying to be Nonchalant about it
And I'm going to extremes to prove I'm fine without you
But in reality I'm slowly losing my mind Underneath a disguise of a smile
Gradually I'm dying inside Friends ask me how I feel
And I lie convincingly Cause I don't want to reveal
The fact that I'm suffering So I wear my disguise
Till I go home at night And turn down all the lights
And then I break down and cry


So what do you do When somebody you're so devoted to
Suddenly just stops loving you And it seems they haven't got a clue
Of the pain that rejection is putting you through
Do you cling to your pride And sing "I will survive"
Do you lash out and say "How dare you leave this way?"
Do you hold on in vain as they just slip away

chorus
It'll break you down only if you let it
Everday crazy situations rocking my mind
Tryin' to break me down But I won't let it
Forget it ( forget it )

I be feelin' like you bringing me down Taking me around
stressin' me out I think i better go and get out
And let me release some stress ( stress )

Don't ever wanna feel no pain ( pain )
Hoping for the sun But it looks like rain ( rain, rain, rain )
Lord, I just wanna maintain

Yeah, I can feel pressures ya'll But never the less
won't fall It's over, it's ending here ( here )


I like this song so much, its describe when we broken heart and give support to out from that. Love is about nature, we cant push love to come over us and cant push to stay too. We will feel so happy when it comes to us, you will see everything more wonderful than before.

But when everything change.. love lost and only care left, u will feel so hurt. Asking many time why it can happen, but never find the answer. Smile just disappear from your face, you feel your heart bleeding and just want to go somewhere no body knows and cry.

Ok you can release your pain, but u must realize love and hurt are the same. It can come and go without notice. Just give your heart time and room to heal your pain, and then start to smile again

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Tear

I saw the sky, its not blue like before
I saw the tree, only a little leaves on there
I saw the sand in the beach, full with mud

I feel the wind still blow like before
the sun still shinning everyday
Day n night still the same


but why I feel I'm losing something
I saw the world only black n white with no oher colors
I only can taste sour not sweet

You already change now
Seem you only remember me when you lonely and need me
You ignore my feeling, not like before

I wish I only dream
When I wake up all are different
I wish I only dream
and u will come back to me like before

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Love Him but Hate Him

Do you ever have this feeling. You really love a man but hate him in the same time. Let me share a story about my friend.
" I ever have this feeling. When I meet him, its looks all perfect, he is so care with me. All the times i feel that he need me more and more. We share our story, laugh a lot, and he always give me support for all my problem. Sending me so much poems, listening music together, want to know what I like and dislike. Seems all perfect in our limitation.

I felt my day was bright that time, he always give me a reason to love, live and laugh. Every time I asked him that, "Do you love me." He replied fast "Yes, my dear." But now, I felt he already changed. We only have a little time to talk, and he will come only when he really need me. Otherwise he will stay away. If I asked something, he only replied with a short word. What must I do, I still love him, but he treat me bad. I never know what he feel to me, coz when I ask him if he don't love me anymore, let me now. But he never respond my question.

I really love him, and I feel I can't life without him on it. Even I always suffered in this relationship, but better for me to stay like that, love and hate in the same time."

Its very common problem in women life, love so absurd, and make we blind. But please think it carefully, "Do you really want to life like that? Can you face it all the time?"
Make your decision carefully, please You NEED TO BE HAPPY...

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