Let the stress work over you

One of big problem in our life when we feel life is stress full enough, sometimes we feel no way to run. But do you know stress make our life more colorfull and exciting, but I am agree too if to much stress will seriously affect our physical and mental.Ok thats best way let the stress work over you not against you.

Sometimes when we face things that always make we feel stress then we will avoid to do it, believe me it wont solve your problem because only will gave you another new problem. Just learning how to handle it, because stress come from our mind. Thing that make we stress sometimes will be an enjoyable things for other. So what we do to handle our stress?

** Talk.. talk.. talk. Dont keep your problem, find someone who you can trust, and you can discuss with without judging or pressing you with
their poin of view

**Discover what you need to feel good and get your need. another wayfind an interest, hobby or activity where you feel in charge and call the shots.
If you really feel out of control, don't stay silent and alone! Seek guidance from someone who is qualified to help you get through the obstacles, and move forward again.
** Don't overhelm yourself, trying to handle many works. Try to delegate and say no without feeling guilty
** Escape your problem for a while, doing something different, or go to some interesting place just make yourself relax. Remember you have a right to do it.
**Know your limits. If a problem is beyond your control and cannot be changed at the moment, don't fight the situation. Learn to accept what is-for now-until such time when you can change it
**Take care of yourself. You are special. Get enough rest and eat well. If you are irritable and tense from lack of sleep or
if you are not eating correctly, you will have less ability to deal with stressful situations.
**Learn to be Happy. When you feel sad and stress just remember the happy thing that you ever had. Count His Blessing, you have many happiness around you
**Think that U must not always right. Just accept if others have another idea, dont make a fight, just build an understanding and make both of you comfortable with this situation
** Dont be shy to cry, crying can move your burden, and prevent a headache or other physical consequence. Take a deep breath and try to release your tension
** Spend time with family and friends for love and support. Don't be afraid to enjoy yourself! Appreciate friendship and let others know you care about them, too. Love may not conquer all, but it's a great start!
There is still many way to heal your stress, just find the best way for you but avoid to use drugs to release your stress. They should be taken :only on the advice of your doctor.

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Think before you speak

Our spoken words originate from our thought, please aware when you speak, it not only affect ourselves but people around us. Another danger about words that one it is out of our mouth, it can never be taken back and it will have an effect. Most of us unaware to positive or negative effect of this words, which has ripple effect on ourselves and those around us. Just wonder if your negative words can hurt somebody else for long time even you have ask for forgiveness.

Everything we say produces an effect and everything you say to someone else also produce some kind off effect in that person. When we speak unkindly we are actually creating a negative vibration within us thus harming the harmony of our body, mind and spirit and destroying our self esteem.


At all times we should think and analyse before we speak, because whatever unpleasant words we say about another it is actually a reflection of ourselves. Every individual should learn not to follow their whims and start doing or saying something that comes into their mind. Exercise our capability to control, be conscious, and apply caution on what we want to speak.

Guide to positive words and thought
* avoid gossip
* stay away from complaining others
* Look at the good quality and strength of others
* do not follow unpleasant emotion to control you
* before you speak ask yourself, are you ok, if others told you like that
* try to take control your word rather than words control you.

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Are you bored in life??

Are you bored with your work, your relationship or your life? Boredom is a complex process. There are lots of reasons that one might be bored. The most common one is that you have no idea what to do. But other reasons might be you feel lazy or tired and just don't want to do the things that are available for you to do. Maybe you have ideas of things to do, and aren't feeling lazy, but you don't feel you can do the things you want to do.

There are people who overcome boredom by going shopping, changing partners, eating too much or indulging in any other activity that would bring some excitement for the moment. But i think it cant work. So try to find a best way to help you out from this problem.


Shift your mindset
Create curiosity and ask yourself some hard questions. What makes you feel the way you do? What leads you to the feeling? Is there something or someone that is triggering your state of mind? What can you do to change it?
You have to instruct your mind to change your pattern of thinking. Your thoughts affect your behavior. By changing your mind about the meaning of your emotion and experiences, you will generate a different attitude.

Doing different activity and find something interest
Doing things that interest you is never boring. Changing your body movements by taking actions will change your emotions and mental state. You can interrupt your laid back attitude by exercising, dancing or getting yourself involved in activities that raise your energy level.

Fire up your imagination.
Create mental images to stimulate your thoughts. Visualize where you want to be and what you want to become. Use your imagination or your dreaming to experience a situation that you want to happen in your life.

Talk to other people.
If you have a good person to talk to, the event can pass by pretty quick. You might also learn something.

Learn to enjoy and appreciate your relationship with yourself.
Sometimes you think you feel alone, no one care about you. Its ok, take your time to understand your self better. talking to yourself, describes your thought. Thinking about your way to dealing with people and anything around you. Express your creativity, in music, drawing or writing. just find more joy from that.

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Develop self control

Self-control is a set of behaviors which: accepts the reality that the only thing in life which you can successfully change and control is yourself. Self-control keeps negative traits such as self-destruction and it also helps a person become the master of his own life, and having the skill of self-control restores and maintains balance. That one of the way to improve your personal growth.


Developing self control
1) First you need to identify in what areas of your life you need to gain more self-control.
Many people have problems with eating right, shopping without overspending, not working too hard or working too hard, excessive drinking, smoking and gambling.

2) Try identifying the emotions that lack control, such as anger, dissatisfaction, unhappiness, resentment,tendency to act without thinking first, the tendency to lose faith in one's ability and character and lastly pleasure or fear.

3) Identify the thoughts and beliefs that push you to behave in uncontrolled manner.

4) Several times a day, especially when you need to display self control,or whenever you feel like losing control and giving in to your impulses, say to yourself, "I can control myself, I am a grown person and I know how to handle myself." Or you can say, "I am the master of my life. No one manipulates my thoughts and emotions but myself."

5) Visualize yourself acting with self-control and self-restraint. Take one of the instances where you usually act with lack of control, and visualize that you are acting calmly and with self-mastery.

Remember, self-control is all about not letting your fears and addictions from taking over your life. It is about you taking control over the negative feelings present in your life. Having self-control means you will enjoy better relationships with people, do better in your work and other endeavors, and you will learn the things that need your attention and emotions from those that should be ignored and left alone. Developing and strengthening your self-control will make you a better person that you are today.

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Happy to be a stay at home mommy

Sometimes we must face a hard decision, like to be a stay at home moms, leaving the workforce office, friends behind. As you make the transition, learn to accept that there is no pre-determined deadline to adapt to being at home, nor is there a blueprint for how you should feel. Recognize that if you don't enjoy being home 24/7 it doesn't mean you're a bad mother or that you don't love your child "enough." Instead, work with your partner to make realistic adjustments in your lives so you'll feel more authentic to your identity and more fulfilled in your new role. In the process you'll give your children, your spouse and yourself one of the finest gifts – your contentment.


Being a stay at home mom is not a bad thing. Stop feeling like our lives may be lacking something if we are not immersed in a career- what about being immersed in our children and being immersed in helping shape them into productive. Our kids need us, not a daycare.You can find fulfillment in meeting your families needs, having time for hobbies, being there for your kids etc. Society has taught us we "need" something beyond our home and family to make us complete.

But I also believe that stay-at-home parents need to continue to challenge themselves with activities that are outside the realm of their jobs as Moms. It's important for stay-at-home parents to have something that is theirs alone to cultivate and keep their minds sharp while helping them remember that they can continue to grow as people (not just as parents)and be as multi-facted as they'd like to be. ENJOY YOUR TIMES MOMS

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