>> Sunday, May 10, 2009
In this age of internet, chat room sometimes you find someone you love there, but the problems come when you realize how far distance betwen you and your love one. It will be a hard relationship, because when you need your soulmate beside, he is not there. Human beings crave physical affection. People miss the other person's smile, eye contact, scent, touch, kiss, touch, and most aspects of physical intimacy. No matter how much a couple tries, physical interaction cannot be replaced by a phone call, letter or cyber anything
It will be harder when not only distance but different timezone too. You cant match the exact time to communicate. You must arrange time for rest, work and when you can have intimate times to talk.
But since love sometimes you cant control, so just try many ways to make it work.
* communicate in some way everyday
Since you wont be seeing each other, it's important to establish and maintain an emotional connection. Not always long or in-dept relationship, but just teel him/her your little problem and ask for advice. Send message via messenger or email is good but be careful sometimes written language can increase possibility of misunderstanding. U can use webcam to interact with your mate, with that you can see your mate expression and smile. It can reduce your burden from missing him or her to much.Send her/him short good night, good morning message or little love notes just to express how you care about him/her
*Make an agreement with your mate how many times you will contact him/her for a week, so one of you not feel abandoned by other. If you can meet your promise just send a massage to explain why. Be prepared to be flexible and less demanding.
*NEVER argue over e-mail and try not to argue over the phone either. If it happen try to solve it carefully.
* Avoid jealousy and be trusting One of the easiest ways to destroy a perfectly healthy relationship is to poison it with jealousy and drama. When you start a long distance relationship you must be realistic of the difficulties ahead. You should approach the trust issue in a long distance relationship the same way as you would in a normal relationship. If there is no indication or evidence of cheating, it is most likely not happening. Don't fall in the trap to interrogate your partner every time he/she decides to go out for a drink with people you haven't met or he/she didn't get back to you right away when you called and left a message
*Know when to say good-bye. While this is tough in any relationship, this can be especially hard over long distances. When communication becomes one-sided or sparse for too long and for no apparent reason, when arguments (yes, you'll have them) become too frequent, when the whole thing just seems like more trouble than it's worth, it's time to re-evaluate the relationship.
You have to remember that for a healthy relationship, no matter how far or close, you must be willing to let go.